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I Love Fat Shaming!

I Love Fat Shaming!

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In the past couple years, I’ve shamed 50 lbs right off my body!  Shame on you, fat!  Sneaking up on me when I wasn’t paying attention, …you opportunistic, mother f*k*r!

Any other interpretation of the term “fat shaming” is confused.  Fat is fact, not a judgement.  If you feel you have unhealthy amounts of fat, and someone points that out to you, you might feel ashamed.  If you have fat but you truly feel it’s a healthy amount, you wouldn’t feel “fat shame” regardless of who tells you otherwise.  (Remember we get to choose whose opinions we respect, and we also have a duty to ourselves to assess our feelings and not give equal importance to feelings that are self defeating.)

“Fat Shamer” vs. “Asshole”

If someone calls you fat ass, or yells at you to put down the donut or hit the gym, they aren’t a “fat shamer” they are an asshole.  So, #asshole instead of #fatshaming.

We don’t need to make up new terms to confuse the issue.  Being unhealthily fat is not “ok” any more than it’s “ok” to be an asshole.  People will still choose to do both, but it doesn’t mean we have to accept these behaviors as “ok.”

Shame relies specifically on that comparison of yourself to your own standard, or standards set by a group or culture.  In a world where standards are sliding across the board, I find it hard to jump on the “shaming the shamers” train.

If we are to lump everyone who speaks about fat as a “fat shamer,” then we must lump everyone who supports fat as a “fat enabler.”  #fatenabling

We’ve created a society where you can no longer point out faults for fear of harming someone’s psyche.  As a college teacher, I was discouraged from reprimanding or correcting students in front of each other.  These were adults, at the final stage before entering the real world…  yet pointing out that they were wrong in front of their peers might be too much for them to handle?  (Or more accurately, it might send them complaining to their parents, getting the parents angry in a way that the school’s lawyers couldn’t or didn’t want to deal with.)  Integrity nowadays seems …antiquated, quaint, “old school.”

Without experiencing that kind of embarrassment in a controlled environment (surrounded by peers going through similar circumstances) as they grow up, these children grow up thinking they are right, more often than they are.  They think they are entitled to more than they are, and they are likely to think that they are more capable than they actually are.  If they had any of these points “checked” earlier in life, they might have been able to learn different skills and actually BE right more often, be more entitled, and be more capable.

When we don’t speak the truth, it is a lie of omission.  If we are too quiet, too PC, or too polite to correct unhealthy, rude, or ignorant behavior, it eventually becomes the same as encouraging those behaviors.  I am guilty of this.  We all are.  Just this week I can’t tell you how many “friends” used the wrong words in expressions on facebook and I just.. let it slide.  The sad thing is, I’m not sure how many other people even noticed.  Too many times, we’ve all collectively decide to let it slide.  We don’t want to offend people…  and then before we know it, the barely literate have re-imagined our language a la “Idiocracy.”

So, let’s talk about fat.  Just keep it out there.  And the natural cave-days fat will remain desired, and the giant, debilitating, would-have-been-eaten-by-a-tiger fat will continue not to be, and fetish cliques will still exist, and aren’t we fortunate to have so much fucking food in this country that we even get to have this fucking conversation.

Get Outta Here With Your #FatShaming Complaints.

Master Cleanse Unicorn. Get real with how you feel about your body and own it.  Either you’re ashamed or you’re not. If you’re ashamed, examine that and make sure you have a realistic expectation for yourself.  Then if you need to make a change, DO IT.  And the SECOND you start doing it, stop letting yourself feel ashamed.  When you take care of yourself you have nothing to be ashamed of. Period.  Don’t give that power to assholes.  In fact, now you get to do the fat shaming. Shame that fat right off your body!

 

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